Category Archives: Weird? Nah!

Were Your Malayalee Parents Chinese Mothers?

Back in January, there was a huge buzz over Amy Chua and her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Using the phrases “Western parenting” and “Chinese parenting” loosely, a few examples of her thoughts are below.

Western vs. Chinese parenting on piano practice:

All the same, even when Western parents think they’re being strict, they usually don’t come close to being Chinese mothers. For example, my Western friends who consider themselves strict make their children practice their instruments 30 minutes every day. An hour at most. For a Chinese mother, the first hour is the easy part. It’s hours two and three that get tough… Continue reading


How Many Funerals Are In Your DVD/Video Collection?

It’s funny how your culture can do something others would call odd, but you would never think twice about it or notice it until someone brings it up.

At a college internship, my co-worker mentioned how the funeral she’d attended that weekend had a photographer and videographer.

“How morbid!” she declared. “Why would you want to see a loved one in that state after the funeral’s over?”

I nodded my head in agreement. And then it occurred to me.

“You know, we have video and photos of both of my grandmothers’ funerals,” I said.

eraviperoor funeral

At Indian funerals, I had never flinched at the site of photographers. But now that my co-worker mentioned the morbidity of it all, I could see what she meant. But then again, I could understand that family members wanted to remember the last time they would see their loved ones.

Well the craze must be catching on in the States. Inc Magazine just featured Curtis Funk for his startup, Not only does the company offer video and audio recordings, but you can livestream the funeral,  get a transcript of the event, set up a website and have professional voice talent record an audio obituary for the site.

What’s your take on recording the funeral and even taking the recording to the next level like Funk’s startup is doing? If you started a similar business, do you think you could own the Malayalee market?

The Elusive Thank You

How do you say “thank you” in Malayalam? For years, I didn’t know. Because I never heard the word.


Not that Malayalees are thankless people. Gratitude is just not often demonstrated in words, I suppose.

When in Kerala, Anthony Bourdain’s crew asked how to say “thank you” and started practicing the word. How funny, I thought.

Facebook Status of the Month

listening to secular music reminds me of how great God can be. listening to christian music reminds of how gay christianity can be..

My friend posted this status online. So poignant! I’m not a fan of using the word “gay” pejoratively, but he gets his point across.

There’s a website called Jesus Needs New PR. You could start a similar website called Christianity is Gay. (But again, it’s not nice to use “gay” pejoratively.)

I love being out in the real world. Learning how different people think, what logic works for them, how they were raised differently. I love when my worldview is challenged, when I run into a brick wall and have to reshape where I had gone wrong and was shortsighted.

I love that I don’t have all the answers, but I will be a lifelong seeker in my quest to get closer to them.

I love that sometimes the answer is actually more questions and more cloudiness and that in that way I can walk away from narrow-minded, easy, second-hand “truths.”

God exists in the real world. Christianity gets real cheesy when you pretend God doesn’t exist in the real world. We are so quick to divide between right and wrong. If you do X, Y, or Z, you suddenly fit into the bad person group and ostensibly have no connection to God.

But the truth is we all make mistakes, and that’s when redemption becomes truer than ever. You can’t strip away someone’s humanity out of self-righteousness.

I love the world outside of church and outside of the deceptive “order” imposed by culture. In the real world, in complexity, in brokenness, you find God and why He’s so freakin awesome.

That’s why you won’t find me singing hymns and scriptures all day on my blog (as much as I love them). Sometimes I feel like we mask ourselves when we put on our “church” words and voices. I want to be real! For some people, churchiness is real and sincere. But I’m more of a nitty gritty “let’s talk about drugs, sex and poop” real. Hope that’s OK.